The 7 things you need to ask your partner about sex
From Alison Armstrong
- What sex provides for you?
Don’t assume you know this about your partner or that they know this about you. We all assume it’s the same for each other or the same as for much younger men and women. - What fills your “Sexy Tank?”
What puts you in your body and open to physical intimacy? - Your “Pumpkin Hours?”
When are the times that a request for sex from your partner would cause resentment ~ for example because of lost sleep or another focus? - Your “Signals?”
How do you indicate the desire for sex to your partner? If you’ve been getting turned down, he might not even be receiving your signal! - Your “Desserts?”
What will you “eat” even when you’re not hungry? What is always a great offer? - Your “Jump Starts?”
Every man and woman has words, phrases, tones of voice and/or ways to be touched that jump start a dead battery and make you want to have sex NOW! - Your “End Game?”
What do you need in the minutes, hours and days after sex? To feel appreciated, respected or loved? It’s okay to need a phone call, even when you’re married!
Now, after reading this list, you can see it all boils down to communication. A lot of women may be embarrassed, or feel like their man might think they’re “dirty” for being so open about their needs. I recently talked to a few of my male friends, and I can assure you that this is NOT the case! Men love pleasing their women, and not only will they be quite happy to get some instruction from the most beautiful women in the world, their chosen one, but they’ll also find it really sexy that you’re interested in sex with them and that you want it to be the best it can be for both of you. So, give it a try, next time you’re alone and in an intimate setting. Start with “you know what really turns me on?” and I promise it will go well!!
