One of the things we discovered years ago is that the Masculine measures reality by trusted FACTS while the Feminine reality is created by her FEELINGS.  Both of these are completely valid ways of seeing the world.
An interesting and hazardous side effect, however, is when you put these two realities in an automobile together. Â Let’s call the Masculine a “Man,” although this is not always true, and the Feminine a “Woman,” also not always true ~ but easier to repeat over and over again. Â He’s going to pay attention to being Factually safe, while she can’t help but notice if she Feels safe.
Add to this the difference in eyesight for men and women: He can track moving objects way better than she can; she has a peripheral vision that’s more sensitive and prey-like than predator ~ meaning she sees more threats.
This is how you have a woman full of tension and potentially freaking out because he keeps changing lanes. Â Every time he moves the car to a lane on her side, it will look to her like cars on her side might hit her. Â So she doesn’t feel safe. Â He may know factually that he hasn’t had an accident in decades, that the car over on the other side wasn’t going to move, that the speed with which he slipped in that spot missed the other car by a mile… and so on.
Unfortunately, the fact of her being safe will not make her feel safe. Â And a man’s greatest challenge with women is making them FEEL SAFE. Â Because everything good from a woman begins with her feeling safe ~ and everything nasty begins with her feeling unsafe.
I would love your comments and questions related to this topic. Â It’s worth exploring!
Blessings,
Heather
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